tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post2404106511825246714..comments2024-03-28T08:03:32.297-07:00Comments on Holy Bullies and Headless Monsters: Black gay men, AIDS, and no community supportBlackTsunamihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02349560427762283170noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-11707029814138032642012-07-17T04:13:34.203-07:002012-07-17T04:13:34.203-07:00It sounds like you are doing what needs to be done...It sounds like you are doing what needs to be done. I think what I was saying when I wrote that piece is that a lot of times, the public images we see in gay culture is only one type and when this happens, a lot of us who are not that type feel left out.BlackTsunamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349560427762283170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-53389240712722223642012-07-16T21:11:29.702-07:002012-07-16T21:11:29.702-07:00As a white gay man, what do you suggest we do that...As a white gay man, what do you suggest we do that we already aren't doing? I accept black gay men with AIDS in the sense that I won't shun them just because they're black or have AIDS... but I'm already in a committed relationship with another man. <br /><br />LGBT centers do offer support.. but what can I do?Richard Enderlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10240131485721388487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-90664682232633664692012-04-04T17:12:34.030-07:002012-04-04T17:12:34.030-07:00Thank You for this article. I had no idea. I being...Thank You for this article. I had no idea. I being fat had no idea that other groups were feeling the way I do. I agree about the cliqueness of the gay community especially in SF. I get that our community thru no fault of our own seems to revolve around crusing spots. It leaves very few other oppurtunities for ppl to meet friends and feel supported unless you fit into the standard "castro clone" type. Now that we've progressed maybe we can start to build other ways of incorporating ALL members of our community. So we all feel apart of something. There is more to a community besides bars,gyms and sex shops. Everyone thinks San Francisco is a gay mecca when it's really a mecca for the pretty white young ones who are looking to hook up the rest of us (lesbians, fatties,other ethnic groups or even teens) See it as desert and we're dying of thrist. Where's our community for all? Why do you we have to be on the verge of death in order for us to stop acting like catty elitest queens?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-29001467687345153502011-03-12T15:57:28.532-08:002011-03-12T15:57:28.532-08:00My heart breaks for anyone that is affected by AID...My heart breaks for anyone that is affected by AIDS. The south eastern United States has experienced an exponential growth in the disease among all people but the hardest hit have been gay black males and young black females. I have cared for people as they have died of this disease that there is almost a false security that people don't die from it anymore. I am trying to get a "where the rubber meets the road" type of campaign off the ground to provide good support, good education, good healthcare, and the medications that can save lives. South Carolina government is not the answer, caring people are.Julia RNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-5764847987630856722010-10-18T17:42:10.475-07:002010-10-18T17:42:10.475-07:00"I got an idea - how about giving us a little..."I got an idea - how about giving us a little support while we are healthy. How about not isolating us or making our lives seem dirty by using the word "lifestyle" like it's a pooper scooper.<br /><br />So both the lgbt and black community have work to do. I can only hope the work gets done before too many lgbts of color suffer."<br /><br />EXACTLY!<br /><br />"And I know the lack of support that the black gay community does not get, but that is still no excuse to put your body in harms way.<br /><br />Love Thy Self. Just because someone does not want you or support you does not give you the right to risk yourself to AIDS or anything else.<br /><br />Jesus was rejected by his own people and killed, and he asked his father to forgive them. Where is your dignity, self esteem.<br /><br />No matter how many people you have supporting you in the end, YOU have to make the choice to support yourself.<br /><br />AIDS can be avoided if people start taking pride in themselves. If you never have sex again that would not make you anyless of a gay man, or str8."<br /><br /><br />Nice saying in theory, but it is meaningless in practice without support. You know it, and I know it. You remind me of those people who say, "People are people," then don't want to do the actual work to see that people ARE ACTUALLY treated as HUMAN BEINGS.<br />Also, your statement has a touch of self-righteousness and arrogance that gives me cynicism.<br /><br />Thank you, Anonymous, BlackTsunami, and Lucas for your support. Hopefully, you get the word out to others.<br /><br />Thank you,<br />Faith.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-20783760455315179172010-05-05T04:09:02.176-07:002010-05-05T04:09:02.176-07:00I get what you're saying, but correlating the ...I get what you're saying, but correlating the lack of racial variety black men's dating pool to HIV make black gay men look like vectors of disease. Why would any non-black person want to touch a brotha after reading this? The glbt community is cliquish, classist, and, ahem, flat-out racist--just like the country. African-Americans must not blame others for sexual practices that lead to disease. Hell, I'm a black woman and I don't blame DL negroes for giving so many sistas HIV. Each act is a choice with consequences. Black men and women are the least likely of any ethnic group to date outside of our race. Our dating pool is small and the water is getting fetid. Love thyself enough to protect thyself. Ain't nobody gonna love us until we love ourselves first. That goes for straight, gay, or in-between. --whilome...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-3637319257095781422009-10-20T06:55:14.568-07:002009-10-20T06:55:14.568-07:00Your two cents was good but you made a huge error....Your two cents was good but you made a huge error. it goes beyond "sexual partners." That's the point that should be made. It has a lot to do with support and self esteem. When gay men of color have no support, no one backing them up to say the very things you have said in your comments (albeit less detail regarding "sexual intercourse) they are steered into negative behaviors.BlackTsunamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349560427762283170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-56928920796543502612009-10-20T06:33:07.683-07:002009-10-20T06:33:07.683-07:00Am real late on this article, but allow me to say ...Am real late on this article, but allow me to say this. AIDS has nothing to do with the fact that black men are less likely to be dated by non blacks. It has everything, everything, to do with personal choice.<br /><br />Sex is a choice period, how we have sex is a choice, with whom, when, where, why, are all choices. Sex is not a need it is a want, a blessed act from God,<br />But dont tell me that the spread of AIDS in my community is due to lack of sexual partners from different races. <br /><br />And I know the lack of support that the black gay community does not get, but that is still no excuse to put your body in harms way.<br /><br />Love Thy Self. Just because someone does not want you or support you does not give you the right to risk yourself to AIDS or anything else.<br /><br />Jesus was rejected by his own people and killed, and he asked his father to forgive them. Where is your dignity, self esteem.<br /><br />No matter how many people you have supporting you in the end, YOU have to make the choice to support yourself.<br /><br />AIDS can be avoided if people start taking pride in themselves. If you never have sex again that would not make you anyless of a gay man, or str8.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-50330668259161514402009-07-08T14:32:52.562-07:002009-07-08T14:32:52.562-07:00Likewise, I'm Asian, my partner of 9 years bla...Likewise, I'm Asian, my partner of 9 years black, HIV+ ever since I met him -- never thought twice about loving him.<br /><br />Since we both are racial minorities, we both are subject to racial favoritisms in different ways -- racial fetish, as I call them. <br /><br />I can certainly attest to the more positive/desirable attitude towards Asians, frequently stereotyped as cute, little, effeminate bottom sluts, while blacks the more negative / undesirable attitudes stereotyped as big, masculine aggressive butt pirates.<br /><br />I, on the other hand, never had a high regard for conventional wisdom, am grateful to have the love and devotion of the most attractive man I know.Lukasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-52067199934760239292009-07-03T10:42:41.565-07:002009-07-03T10:42:41.565-07:00Hey my friend,
I commend for loving your partner ...Hey my friend,<br /><br />I commend for loving your partner ;p.<br /><br />And stories of folks like yourself should be told to a wider audience.BlackTsunamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349560427762283170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33855769.post-48836593559541870672009-07-03T08:20:21.189-07:002009-07-03T08:20:21.189-07:00I am white, and my partner of 6 years is Black and...I am white, and my partner of 6 years is Black and HIV +. I've been in love with him since I first laid eyes on him. Perhaps I'm an exception?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com