Monday, June 02, 2025

Short film gives simple and exact understanding about what Pride is all about

 Pride Month 2025 is here, and I expect it to be a busy month for both good and reasons. I could go into a blog post about LGBTQ American history or remind folks that this particular Pride Month will probably be difficult times because the enemies of our equality feel empowered by the Trump Administration.

We've got plenty of time for that. 

Right now, I am posting the above video as a reminder of why not only Pride Month but the LGBTQ struggle for equality, health, and self-determination are important. I've posted the video before and will probably do so many times in the future because it's one of my favorites.

It makes the point better than any commentary I could write. Two young boys are going on a date to a school dance. Just like heterosexual couples do. Nothing spooky or sexual, just two young kids enjoying a school function in each other's company. 

And there isn't a thing wrong with it. Granted, there will be some folks who will screech about "sexualizing" or "grooming" even though there is nothing resembling any of these things in this video. But when you ignore the screeching and just pay attention to the message of the film, you get a simple but exact understanding about what Pride is all about.

It's about the right to function without any fears of having to deal reprisals from ignorant people, whether that function is getting married, obtaining employment, building a family and raising kids, or even simply going to a school dance with someone you like.

Hell, it's about being able to walk down any street in America without being hassled or physically attacked because someone doesn't like to see you holding hands with your partner, or the way you walk or what you're wearing.

It's about the right to be. To exist on your terms and not the religious or stereotypical terms of other people, the vast majority not even knowing you and not caring to either. It's about going through the scary rites of life without your fears being compounded by someone who can't stand your existence. Basically, it's about the ability to decide what you will do in your life and not someone else deciding for you.

 It's about being a human being.

Thursday, May 29, 2025

Trans man gets detained after using women's restroom, proving insanity of 'bathroom bills'


Luca Strobel

GLAAD award-winning substacker Erin Reed is exactly who I am talking about when I say that our community need to support independent LGBTQ journalists.

 As a gay black man, I am doubly aware of how this country's mainstream media ignores our communities while pandering to what they call "the mainstream America." They won't ever admit it, but most often than not, their definition of "mainstream America" are white heterosexuals.

As such, incidents like the one below get ignored. Luca Strobel, a 25-year-old trans man in South Carolina, was using the bathroom based upon his assigned at birth gender (which some states have laws demanding that trans people do) in Charleston, SC. He ended up being accosted and detained because of his appearance as a man.


 “They're looking over the top of the stall at me without my clothes on,” Strobel said in the video. “They can fully see me naked other than me having my shirt on, and they just start screaming that there's ‘a man’ in here.”

 He said the owner and employee ejected him and his friend from the bar—grabbing and pushing them out as they reportedly called Strobel anti-trans slurs. The police were waiting at the door, Strobel said. The officer cuffed him “so tight that I can't even feel my fingers,” Strobel said. “I still have a bruise on my knuckle.” 

Meanwhile, his arresting officer allegedly kept calling him a “little girl.” “We didn't get booked, but we did get cuffed, and when we got to the station, we were asking a bunch of questions that they refused to answer,” Strobel said. “They just kept saying, ‘Take it up in court, take it up in court, take it up in court.’” 

. . . There is no state law in South Carolina preventing a trans man (or any man) from using the women’s room in public accommodations, such as a bar. However, there has been an avalanche of anti-trans bills nationwide seeking such mandates, including in South Carolina, where lawmakers enacted a version of this policy targeting schools in 2024, and re-introduced it in 2025. 

 In other words, Strobel was using the bathroom that many conservative lawmakers and anti-trans pundits want to force him to use—and he got arrested anyway, seemingly because of the panic surrounding gendered bathrooms. This kind of harassment is no stranger to trans and gender nonconforming people—in April, a trans girl in Florida was arrested for using the women’s bathroom in an act of protest against that state’s anti-trans bathroom bill. She washed her hands in the sink before being escorted out by police. 

In February, cisgender lesbian in Arizona made headlines after documenting her own experience having police interrogate her gender while she was using a women’s restroom.


Go to Erin Reed's substack, Erin in the Morning, for the full story and information on how you can support her work.

When these bathroom bills were passed while hysteria about trans people using public bathrooms spread, there were warnings that an added consequence would be people getting verbally and physically accosted simply because they don't fit physical stereotypes of what men and women are supposed to look like. 

And now here we are.

Tuesday, May 27, 2025

'SCOTUS rejects appeal of student wanting to wear 'only two genders' t-shirt at school' & other Tue/Wed news briefs

Supreme Court rejects appeal of Massachusetts student who wanted to wear ‘only two genders’ T-shirt  - "On Tuesday, the justices left in place a federal appeals court ruling that said it would not second-guess the decision of educators in Middleborough, Massachusetts, to not allow the T-shirt to be worn in a school environment because of a negative impact on transgender and gender-nonconforming students."   Let's be clear.  The t-shirt was a way of baiting trans students and the case itself was pushed to chip away at LGBTQ rights and safety. Both attempts failed.

Right-wing justices decry limits to speech — that they 'helped make possible' - Both Clarence Thomas and Samuel Alito dissented in the above case. The irony is how they ruled in the past against student speech put down the groundwork for how the court decided in this case. Way to go, guys. I thank you and . . . well actually I don't. 

 Donald Trump's anti-LGBTQ+ cabinet: An in-depth look - They do NOT like us.

Today we must honor the trans troops who are fighting a war waged by their own country - Hell yeah!

Utah Republicans ignore study supporting gender-affirming care for trans youth. It's research they demanded - One guess why. 

EU countries ‘alarmed’ over Hungary’s worsening anti-LGBTQ crackdown - Every country should be. The crackdown in itself is bad. But there are some folks here in America who have express support for it. 



Thursday, May 22, 2025

Trump's 'Big Bowl of Bullsh!t Bill' would ban Medicaid and Obamacare from funding trans healthcare care & wreak havoc on the poor

Editor's note - EARLY Thursday morning, the House of Representatives passed what Trump calls his "Big, Beautiful Bill" by one vote. What is should be called is the "Big Bowl of Bullshit Bill." Now it goes to the Senate and I suspect there will be major changes made. Regardless, this bill is a disaster on many levels and not just to the LGBTQ community. A lot of Americans are going to be hurt, while the wealthiest Americans are going to reap benefits. The news briefs below explain how this bill would generate a lot of pain for not only LGBTQ people but the country in general.

Trump’s ‘One, big, beautiful bill’ would ban care for transgender people on Medicaid and Obamacare - Federally funded gender-affirming care would be banned. And for all trans Americans, not just trans kids. I can just hear the nonsense about "It's not banning healthcare for trans people. it's simply saying that taxpayers shouldn't have to pay for it." That explanation only underscores the ignorance this country has when it comes to gender-affirming care, which is a legitimate medical issue and should be covered under Medicaid and Obamacare. Any attempt to undermine federal funding comes from a place of malice. 

Republicans pass ‘Big Beautiful Bill’ banning federally funded gender-affirming care for trans people - This article from the Advocate gives more details. It also includes the following:

 The bill would extend Trump’s 2017 tax cuts and deliver billions in new spending for immigration enforcement and the Pentagon. But it does so at a steep human cost: The Congressional Budget Office estimates 13.7 million people will lose health coverage. LGBTQ+ people — especially those living with HIV, people of color, and low-income families — are among the hardest hit. 

And:

Below are articles which point out the overall chaos this bill would cause the country. Kamala Harris and so many others warned Americans last year about this, but they didn't listen. It sadly goes to show that you can warn people about disaster until you wear yourself out, but they won't listen until they get hit with the disaster. Then they expect someone else to save them from what they themselves could have prevented in the first place.

Tuesday, May 20, 2025

' Trump said 'no more drag shows' at Kennedy Center, but there will be drag anyway' & other Tue/Wed news briefs

Trump claimed that because of his new board, there will be 'no more drag shows' at the Kennedy Center. But 'Mrs. Doubtfire,' a musical about a man who masquerades an elderly woman, and other shows featuring drag will be coming to Kennedy Center. Just write it down as yet another Trump misdirection.

Editor's note - It has been very clear to me that the news media won't do what they are supposed to be doing during Trump's second term. It could be that he is overwhelming them with all of his exploits. Or it could be, as seen by the emergence of that ridiculous book on Biden, that the pundits and the like covering Washington are more concerned with their careers than with giving the public sorely needed education and information. Whatever the case may be, it is crucial that LGBTQ bloggers and independent journalist work diligently to inform, educate, and rally our community during this crucial time iin history. 

Trump promised “NO MORE DRAG SHOWS” at Kennedy Center. Their new season is full of drag. -We shouldn't be surprised here. Trump misdirects and lies so much that it's like breathing to him.

WorldPride—a Massive LGBTQ Celebration—Is About to Collide With Donald Trump’s Washington - Bring it, you orange-faced bitch. 

Supreme Court backs Republican lawmaker in Maine who was punished for transgender athlete remarks - This woman targeted a trans high school student but suddenly SHE'S the victim? Please.

Gay Senate candidate Chris Pappas: The government shouldn’t limit trans people’s health care - From the article: " If U.S. Rep. Chris Pappas wins New Hampshire’s open Senate seat in 2026, he will become the first out gay man ever elected to the U.S. Senate and only the third LGBTQ+ person. But Pappas, a 44-year-old Democrat now in his third term in the House of Representatives, says his campaign isn’t about making history." 

Virginia Republican candidate for governor addresses grads at extremely anti-LGBTQ+ schools - It's a mess in Virginia. The extremely anti-LGBTQ Lt. Governor is running for governor. Meanwhile the Republican nominee for Lt Gov is an openly gay conservative who is embroiled in a scandal over pornographic pictures. Lawd, hammercy! 

Federal Judge Strikes Down LGBTQ Protections Against Workplace Discrimination - Keep your eyes open on this one. This judge has been a deliberate problem for us ever since he was picked.

Monday, May 19, 2025

Video - Man claims to KNOW that LGBTQ people are trying to create a Marxist, genderless society



I don't know the exact scenario which created the moment below. But I do know that it typifies the idiocy of homophobes. LGBTQ people have been accused of so many things from the standard lie of recruiting kids to the outrageous lie of controlling the weather. 

But I don't think I've ever heard us being accused of wanting to create a Marxist, genderless society. 

The man in the video reminds me one of those pseudo-intellectual, self-righteous individuals in college who you wasted time arguing with for 10 minutes until you've forgotten how said argument began while quietly badgering yourself for wasting time to argue with him in the first place.

And to add to the stereotype, he is wrong about his facts even though he is so damn sure of them. For one thing, LGBTQ equality will not lead to people thinking that pedophilia is a legitimate sexual orientation. Secondly, Harry Hay did not start the gay rights movement. Our movement for equality began a long time before Hay was even on the scene. In fact, if you wanted to legitimately trace it, you should look up William Dorsey Swann, a former slave and the first person to self-identify as a "queen of drag."

Other than that, I don't know what else to say except for the embarrassing truth that I don't know what Marxism is. The most radical thing I probably want to do as a gay man is to have Anne Murray sing Can I Have This Dance at my wedding.

Wednesday, May 14, 2025

Transphobic ad blitz fails (former) Omaha, Nebraska mayor in election


Omaha, Nebraska mayor Jean Stothert turned her back on the LGBTQ community and fully embraced transphobia with flyers (top picture) and television ads linking her opponent, John Ewing with the standard bigoted tropes. Ewing didn't distance himself from the trans community, while challenging Stothert's ad blitz head on (bottom picture). At the end of the campaign, Ewing easily won, becoming the city's first Black mayor.

A three-term incumbent mayor (now former mayor) in Omaha, Nebraska found out the hard way that scaring people about transgender Americans can only go so far.

From Queerty:

Jean Stothert governed as a moderate Republican during her tenure as the mayor of Omaha, Nebraska, even creating an LGBTQ+ advisory board to improve her relations with the community.

 But in the waning days of her most recent campaign, the three-term incumbent leaned into anti-LGBTQ+ sentiment. She ran a TV ad accusing her Democratic opponent, John Ewing Jr., of wanting “boys in girls’ bathrooms and sports,” tired transphobic lines that Republicans across the country have been trotting out for years. 

 When Omaha residents went to the polls Tuesday, they didn’t buy her fear-mongering. Ewing bested Stothert by more than 11,000 votes, becoming the first Black mayor in the city’s history. Though Omaha has more registered Democrats than Republicans, Stothert was popular and won by 27 points when she ran for re-election in 2021.

LGBTQ online publication THEM pointed out that the Ewing campaign met the ad blitz head on while not distancing itself from trans people and in one case, turning Stothert's ad blitz against her with a flyer of its own.

Stothert was generally favored going into Election Day, as a 12-year incumbent who won her last election with a whopping 64% of the vote. But in the final weeks of the campaign, Stothert and a conservative PAC blitzed Ewing and the Democrats with anti-trans ads similar to those seen in the 2024 presidential election. 

 One TV ad from the Stothert campaign claimed that Ewing “stands with radicals” in favor of “boys in girls’ bathrooms and sports,” according to the Omaha World-Herald. Separately, a mailer paid for by the newly-formed PAC Omaha Leadership Fund — itself funded by another right-wing, anti-abortion PAC called “Common Sense Nebraska” — claimed that Ewing wants to “transition minors without their parents’ consent” and is “backed by radicals who will allow men in girls’ sports and bathrooms,” as seen in what appears to be a photo of the mailer posted to the r/Omaha subreddit last week.

 Ewing’s campaign called Stothert’s claims “utterly false” and demanded that the TV ad be pulled, per the World-Herald. In a statement to the newspaper, Stothert said she had no knowledge of the mailer before it was released, but stood by the TV ad. The claims in that ad were not connected to any statements by Ewing himself, she said, but were instead based on his endorsements from the Nebraska Democratic Party and the Nebraska Stonewall Democrats, the party’s LGBTQ+ caucus. Stonewall Dems oppose LB89, a Republican bill in the state legislature that would ban trans students from using bathrooms or locker rooms, or competing on sports teams, that match their gender; legislators voted to advance the bill last month, after a similar version died as the result of a filibuster in 2024. 

 But though Ewing and the Nebraska Dems pushed back against the Stothert camp’s accusations, they also did not distance themselves from trans people . . .  On May 2, Ewing held a Q&A at Omaha gay bar Flixx hosted by local drag queen Jackie Oh Kennedy. And only a few days before the election, the Nebraska Dems posted an image to X declaring that “Jean is focused on potties,” featuring an edited image of Stothert’s face poking underneath a bathroom stall. (“Ultimately, Jean would rather focus on potties, while John focuses on fixing potholes,” Nebraska Democratic Party Executive Director Precious McKesson wrote in a May 8 press release.)