Sunday, April 04, 2021

Donnie McClurkin's struggles with his sexual orientation should earn no sympathy

Gospel singer Donnie McClurkin

Supposed ex-gay gospel singer Donnie McClurkin is in the news again.  He said that his personal struggles against homosexuality will lead him to be alone for the rest of his life.

 McClurkin, 61, had previously opened up years ago about his past struggles with homosexuality, which he called a “perversion,” and claimed that he was able to suppress his sexual orientation, citing his and many Christian churches’ stance on homosexuality as a sin. He admitted that he still had urges to be with men but chose not to. Comparing homosexuality to diabetes he said, “I don’t eat sugar, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t want sugar.”  

 . . . .“I didn’t know really what a woman wanted,” McClurkin said on Uncensored. “I’ve messed up more than I’ve had good. My past relationships were a sprinkling of everything – men and women.”

 “When things get rough I go back into my safe place – my music and my ministry,” he added. “Never having a long-term relationship in my life and never being married, I chalked that up. I will probably be alone for the rest of my life as far as a mate is concerned.”

I've never been a fan of his "testimony" about his so-called deliverance from homosexuality. But this new angle, this public mourning he is engaging in about his life has gotten me more perturbed at him.

McClurkin is a grown man. His sexual orientation is not a choice, but how he chooses to express it is a choice. He is alone because he chooses to be. And that is his personal decision, which I have no problem with.

What bothers me is how McClurkin has been vocal over the years about how homosexuality is a sin and how he is trying to help LGBTQ children and adults by supposedly steering them away it. He has made statements attesting this on television shows and in the pulpits. He sounded so sure of himself, so determined to "protect the children."

Now here he comes with this sob story about how he is having trouble with relationships and how he will probably be alone for the rest of his life.

That's a terrible message he is sending to LGBTQ people, particularly black LGBTQ youth -  Homosexuality is a sin. God doesn't you to be an LGBTQ person. And you should fight it even if it means you  are sentencing yourself to a lonely life.

To me, it all comes down to the fact that perhaps McClurkin should have settled his own life situation before he took it upon himself to be a crusader in other people's lives.  He's not that much of a credible messenger if his message embraces loneliness.  I feel very little sympathy for him, but my heart goes out to those who bought into his negative message about their God-given LGBTQ sexual orientation. His revelation of being a flawed messenger has to be devastating. Where do they turn now? Do they embrace the idea that homosexuality is a sin, but fighting against it will lead to a lonely life?

Do they question God's love and credibility if they accept McClurkin's message? Would a loving God lead them to have a life with no one to love? Or will they just say to hell with it all and just embrace melancholy in the face of choice McClurkin has presented to them? 

McClurkin seems to have forgotten the first rule of declaring yourself a leader and a public face of a movement - you don't have a personal life. Everything is public and the feelings you express are transcribed by those who follow you as directions of where they should go.

And with that in mind, McClurkin is sending his followers into a deep hole of despair.

Personally, I think McClurkin should find himself a good man with some good dick and have a good life. At the very least, he should take into account the messages he sends before the next time he opens his mouth.