Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Sorry religious right, but the gay community isn't buying what you are selling

As far as I am concerned, it's always a good thing when religious right figures trot their hypocrisies out in the public square.

My only concern is that we as a community don't take advantage of this more. Take former Family Research Council head Janet Parshall for example:



The above excerpt is from a ridiculous documentary she filmed with the American Family Association in 2009 entitled Speechless - Silencing the Christians. The documentary, with her as the host, makes inaccurate charges that gay equality will lead to the silencing and "persecution" of Christians. As you hear her ramble, please be aware that many of her claims are false, but I am sure you already know that.

But what I take from it is the false theme of "persecution" Parshall trots out. Using it, she implies the gay community are the aggressors. That we are the ones who use threats and ugly language against those we oppose.

It's a bizarre thing to take in when one listens to the following recent interview Parshall conducted with FRC's Peter Sprigg:

In case you need to keep to itemize certain realities, Parshall believes that gays gaining any form of equality is dangerous to Christians' rights of free speech. But her calling marriage equality a tool of the devil is right on.

Parshall's hypocrisy reminds me of the Kirk Cameron controversy earlier this year when he attacked gays, was criticized heavily for it, and then pleaded victimhood while hiding behind his so-called Christian beliefs.

And it made me realize a point which we hardly discuss.

To Parshall, Cameron, and other religious right talking heads and organizations, it's not enough for them to feel the negative way they do about the gay community. They seem to not only be angling to denigrate us unchallenged but also want their world view of homosexuality to be the prevalent view.

Think about it. Every time there is something which remotely puts the gay community in a positive light, these people and their groups trot out a stupid argument in which they push offensive phraseology like:

"Americans don't want the gay agenda rammed down their throat," or "parents don't want their children indoctrinated in the homosexual lifestyle."

The way they talk, the gay community sound like we are not Americans, we don't pay taxes, we aren't raising children, and we have no say whatsoever in the making of the laws which would govern our lives.

Let me put it as succinct as possible. People like Janet Parshall and organizations like the American Family Association want to control our lives. They want to put us in a box of sadness and self-hatred, where we settle for dangerous fumblings in public restrooms and parks for good relationships. Where we are content to grow old and alone because we feel that we are not worthy of creating families. Where we accept whatever so-called "tolerance" they give us because we feel that we don't deserve dignity.

Sorry guys, but I feel safe in speaking for the vast, vast majority of the gay community when I say get over  yourselves.

You see, many of us have had that taste of sweet champagne which comes with the revelation  that we are worthy of equality. And when you taste that champagne of equality, you don't go back to the bitter, lukewarm water of low self-esteem and self-denial.

You don't settle for a place in the corner when you have just discovered that you are part owner of the castle.

So my advice to the Janet Parshalls of the worlds, the Peter Spriggs, the American Family Associations is simple:

Give it up. Turn it loose. Because sooner or later, equality will be ours, regardless of you.

Hat tip to Goodasyou.org




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'Catholic Bishops, Bill Graham group in trouble for role in 2012 election' and other Tuesday midday news briefs

Billy Graham Group, Catholic Bishops Come Under Scrutiny For Blurring Election Lines - No offense to anyone of any faith, but I have SERIOUS problems with people in church leadership roles telling people that they are going to hell if hey don't vote a certain way.  

Failed SNL Comedienne Victoria Jackson Continues Being Not Racist Or Crazy At All - I would say that Victoria Jackson has lost her mind but you have to have a mind to lose it. 

 Push Expands for Legalizing Same-Sex Marriage - Good. Don't waste this momentum.

Congrats to Kyrsten Sinema - Another victory. Congress has its first bisexual member!

 United Parcel Service to Boy Scouts of America – no funds for your anti-gay org - Sorry Boy Scouts, you want our tax dollars while you seek to harm our gay children. I don't feel sorry for you.


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NOM's attack on gay families subtle but dangerous

For an organization created to supposedly "defend marriage," the National Organization for Marriage seems to be going into hyper drive in an effort put the disappearing dust on same-sex families.
Check out three recent posts on its blog:

UK Survey Aims to Make Pre-School Classes "Gay Friendly"

French Primary School Kids to Get Lessons in Gay Parenting

Ontario Judge: Parents Have No Right to Know What Gay Activist Taught Their Children

The claims made by these headlines and the articles they are talking about are highly specious, coming from what appears to religious right sources. For example, take the one about UK survey attempting to make pre-school classes "gay friendly." NOM links the story from The UK Christian Institute and it is as follows:

Parents in the East End of Glasgow were shocked to be asked about their sex lives, so that their pre-school children would get “gay-friendly” lessons. Mums and Dads were offered free theatre tickets in exchange for answering a survey about their sexual orientation. The study was carried out by a local arts group which is part-run by the city council. The aim of the Platform charity’s questionnaire, was to help “monitor the degree to which our programmes are gay-friendly”. 

Please note that the article claims that parents were being asked about their sex lives but in reality, they were asked about their sexual orientation. Two other publications verify that the question asked was merely about sexual orientation, not sexual activity. Unfortunately however, both publications also featured hysterical and inaccurate headlines about sexual activity.

What's happening here is subtle but nonetheless dangerous. NOM is conflating any questions designed to help same-sex families to that of scurrilous questions about sexual activity.

Granted, I can understand a tad the trepidation some may feel about being asked about their sexual orientation. But to automatically assume that these questions are a gateway to being asked about sexual activity is an extreme stretch.




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Monday, November 12, 2012

NOM's 'victim for hire' calls Obama the 'Terrorist-in-Chief'

How did I miss this one? It seems that one of the National Organization for Marriage's "victims for hire" wasn't happy with Obama's re-election.

In fact, he called the President a terrorist. Equality Matters gives us the full story:

Damian Goddard – spokesperson for NOM’s Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance (ADA) – published a post on his blog chastising Americans considering moving to Canada as a result of President Obama’s reelection. In his November 8 post, Goddard urged conservatives to stay in America and fight against Obama, who he called “the Terrorist-in-Chief”:
[S]top your complaining.  Please.  For the love of God.
You live in the freest country ever known to mankind.  As the anthem states, America is the land of the free but freedom comes with bravery, not running and hiding.   Your job is to stay.  And fight.  For the battle is still ongoing.
You leave, the terrorists win.  And heck, isn’t that what the Terrorist-in-Chief wants, anyway?
For those who are not aware, Damian Goodard was a Canadian sportscaster who was let go from his job. Goodard claimed that it was because of a tweet he sent out against marriage equality. However, the company that fired him, Sportsnet, denied that this was the case.  The company said he was fired for personal matters which it will not reveal because of its policy to not talk about personnel matters to the press.

Since the time of his firing, Goodard has made a name for himself by teaming up with NOM as a supposed victim of marriage equality:



Goodard's vicious attack on President Obama is not surprising. Instead it rather fits in well with the hypocrisy that is NOM's Anti-Defamation Alliance.

I suppose Maggie Gallagher and company will now label Goodard a larger victim. After all, whatever happened to the good old days when one could label the president as a terrorist with impunity?

 
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'Uganda to pass homophobic law as Christmas gift?' and other Monday midday news briefs

Uganda to pass anti-gay law as 'Christmas gift'? - Stop the celebration. Looks like we've got work to do.  

NOM rounds out losing week by admitting intent to stir up international animus - Just in time for NOM to exploit international homophobia.  

How the Minnesota marriage amendment was defeated -- money, passion, allies - Read and take notes. We are going to need to do this again and again. 

 Veterans Day Highlights Persisting LGBT Inequities In The Military - Let's honor our veterans for the sacrifices they have made for our freedoms. ALL of our veterans. 


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Dan Savage dares Tony Perkins, Family Research Council to sue him



Say what you will about Dan Savage, he is doing what needs to be done here.  For too long, members of the lgbt community - especially those in positions of power - have dodged taking on the Family Research Council and all of the other anti-gay groups for whatever reason.

They seem to ignore the old adage that a good defense is always an offense. In other words, we tend to wait until Perkins and company call us out before engaging them in a discussion or, what I like to call, a much needed verbal war.

Our path to equality will not be shortened by ignoring FRC, NOM, or any of the other groups who deliberately peddle homophobic junk science. They are the roadblocks and sometimes you need to confront roadblocks without provocation with the expressed goal of knocking them out of the way.

Dan Savage is trying to do that here and it is my hope that others follow in his footsteps.


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Friday, November 09, 2012

Know Your LGBT History - The Stonewall Riots of 1969



As we celebrate the hard-earned victories we attained this week, let's not forget those who paved the way for us to reach this point. While gay history began millenniums before the Stonewall Riots, this incident in 1969 was the beginning of the American gay rights movement, when we first learned the sweet taste of satisfaction which comes from standing up for one's self in the face of oppression.

Past Know Your LGBT History posts: