Thursday, August 26, 2021

VA school board agrees to pay trans former student Gavin Grimm $1.3 million in legal fees after battle over bathroom policy

Gavin Grimm

Gavin Grimm, the transgender young man who won his battle against a Virginia school board over its bathroom policy, just received another bit of good news.

From Buzzfeed:

A Virginia school board has agreed to pay more than $1.3 million to Gavin Grimm, a transgender former student who sued the district over its bathroom policy, sending the case all the way to the Supreme Court. The Gloucester County School Board said on Thursday that it would pay the entire amount in legal fees that Grimm and his lawyers had petitioned for after a years long battle that brought national attention to the rights of students to use the facility that corresponds with their gender identity. 

 The former student and his legal team argued in their petition that the case's "arduous journey" involved constant confrontation with the school board, which argued its policy protected students' privacy and wasn't sex-based discrimination because it was applied equally to all students. But Grimm's case went on to be the first time a federal court held that Title IX protects transgender students' right to use restrooms consistent with their gender identity, an unprecedented decision that affected similar cases nationally. Thursday's agreement means that no further proceedings remain in the case, concluding over a decade of legal battles between the former student and the school board.

For more on this lengthy case, including how Grimm eventually won, check out the article. It provides a good extensive background and past articles chronicling the entire situation.

'Virginia schools defy state mandate for trans-inclusive policies' & other Thur midday news briefs



Virginia Schools Defy State Mandate for Trans-Inclusive Policies - Fear and lies are leading to these problems. No these policies will not lead to things like 'gang-rapes.' I mean come on folks.


Wednesday, August 25, 2021

Video - Gay Marriage and Parenting on 'Oprah' (1989)

 
So on Wednesday during an impasse of what to blog about, I found this footage of an Oprah Winfrey Show from 1989. It talks about gay marriage and parenting; two subjects that a lot of us take for granted now. Folks need to watch this video and marvel over a time in which certain realities were regarded as unreachable and certain ugly opinions (including a particularly mean one expressed at 19:34) were verbally commonplace instead of covert and hidden under a veneer of victimhood.

This clip, featuring then couple former Mr. Universe Bob Paris and partner Rod Jackson, attorney Gloria Allred (an ally though she does take up a lot of talking time), and conservative pundit Mona Charen is an eye-opener. We have certainly come a long way.

'School district may ban Pride flags because of one parent' & other Wed midday news briefs

School district may ban Pride flags after parent spots one inside a classroom & freaks out - One parent.

Judge strikes a blow in LGBTQ discrimination case against Yeshiva University - This is getting interesting. 

Brothers Osborne's TJ on Creating Safe Space for LGBTQ Fans: 'That's Worth More Than Anything' - I'd like to see more LGBTQ celebrities follow suit. 

Nicaragua seeks to shut down country’s oldest LGBTQ rights group - Y'all know what I've said about the struggle.

Tuesday, August 24, 2021

Conservative gripe industry blaming LGBTQ people, 'woke ideology' for Taliban takeover of Afghanistan

 As we watch the situation in Afghanistan, an old but reliably annoying reality is playing itself out.

From Media Matters:

Right-wing figures are attacking “woke ideology” in the U.S. military and using anti-LGBTQ rhetoric in their tirades against the American withdrawal from Afghanistan, including spreading the false claim that the U.S. embassy in Kabul flew a LGBTQ pride flag on its rooftop ahead of the Taliban's takeover.

 . . . Right-wing media’s narrative of a culture war claims that American values are threatened by the rise of critical race theory (CRT), identity politics, and the LGBTQ rights movement. In the past year, right-wing actors have turned CRT into a cultural war by attacking school boards, corporations, and even the military in an effort to gin up their conservative base ahead of the 2022 midterm elections. After recently spending weeks attacking the military and Chairman of Joint Chiefs of Staff Chief Gen. Mark Milley for their alleged “wokeness,” right-wing media are now roping anti-LGBTQ rhetoric into their coverage of the Afghanistan war:




Unfortunately, as the Media Matters article points out, the examples above are just a few of the right-wing feeding frenzy. Of course none of these folks making the accusations provide even the smallest iota of proof as to their attacks on the LGBTQ community and 'woke' ideology.' Why should they?

The people who follow their tripe aren't looking for proof nor are they looking for reasonable arguments. They only want validation of their prejudices, fears, and false sense of entitlement and superiority.

'Trump-backed candidate went ballistic over parody book in library's Pride Month display' & other Tue midday news briefs

Trump-backed GOP candidate melted down over Pence rabbit parody in library's Pride Month display: report -What a snowflake. 

Antigay evangelical admits he’s “addicted” to suing for “religious freedom” - You wanna run that by me again? 

2 newlywed women found shot to death at their Utah campsite - Siiiigh! 

How LGBTQ+ Excellence Helped Shape Broadway - You better believe it! 

Afghanistan’s Gay Men Fear Death as Taliban Judge OKs Stonings - Keeping our eyes and hearts on the folks in Afghanistan.

Monday, August 23, 2021

Rapper who bragged about hiring prostitute to service underaged son thinks Lil Nas X is a negative influence on children

Rapper Boosie Badazz has a hypocritical opinion about negative influences on children.

When it comes to LGBTQ people and our supposed negative effect on children, so many hypocrites come out of the woodwork spewing all sorts of false claims of concern. More often than not, they need to check themselves. Because the internet never forgets and frankly neither do I.

Case in point is the controversy which recently erupted between openly gay rapper Lil Nas X and another rapper by the name of DaBaby.  A few months ago, DaBaby  got into serious trouble because of a homophobic rant he made against Lil Nas. He was condemned for it by many celebrities and was also dropped as a performer by many festivals and events.

But he has his defenders, such as another rapper by the name of Boosie Badazz. Boosie, who once claimed that a "forceful media campaign" was turning people gay, has been defending DaBaby since the beginning of the situation. However his defense hasn't exactly been helping matters because his comments came off as homophobic as DaBaby's.

Nevertheless, on Monday he had an interview on the radio show The Breakfast Club, where he sparred with the show's host Charlemagne tha God  and several others about his comments.:

“I just be feeling like sometimes I gotta speak up because, as far as straight people in the world, you don’t have any opinion,” he said, arguing that straight people have less of a voice than those in the LGBTQ+ community. Boosie went on to say that straight men cannot admit to liking women without it sounding “vulgar,” adding, “You can’t brag on really smashing or your sexuality anymore.”

Boosie got push back by Charlemagne and the other hosts who called out how some areas of rap music embrace violence, drugs, and vulgarity against women. Charlemagne also pointed out past rants Boosie made against Lil Nas X:

Charlamagne was addressing the multiple homophobic comments Boosie made earlier this summer. In the first rant, Boosie hit at Nas X for saying that he wanted to dance naked for charity, calling it “disrespect in front of boys who tryna be straight.”  

“If I’m at an awards [show] and he go up there naked, I’ma drag his ass offstage and beat his ass,” he added. “You let a n**** dance naked in front your children, you a motherfuckin’ crazy motherfucker—or you like dick too.” “It’s sad how y’all tryna force this gay stuff on the world,” 

Boosie said a week later. “It’s sad how y’all tryna ban artists. Y’all sad, bro, it’s sad, bro. In 10 years, it ain’t gonna be normal for a kid to be straight. It’s sad, bro. Y’all tryna force it on these kids, bro. Pushing it on the artists, pushing it on all the biggest artists. You know why? Cause’ the kids love those artists. You attacking these kids.”

Boosie attempted to defend those comments by playing the  "I'm only thinking about the children" card:

During Monday’s episode, Boosie attempted to defend his comments, saying that he was disturbed that children would see Nas X dance naked on TV. “I really get offended when it was like, he was saying he would go up there and perform naked in front all this shit, all the people,” Boosie said. “And I was like, ‘Damn.’ All these straight people in the world. All these millions of kids gon’ watch this and no straight rapper ain’t gon’ say, ‘Nah, n****. You ain’t…N****, we don’t want you on that TV. Nobodies not gon’…'” 

When Boosie was challenged about that particular comment, he claimed that parents attempting to raise "strong black men" would be against Lil Nas X.

Charlemagne da God and the other hosts continued to call Boosie out, but I am not aware if they brought a certain hypocrisy with his statements in relation to an incident last year involving his son and nephew. 

In May of last year, Boosie got into trouble because he bragged during an Instagram session of hiring a prostitute to services his son and nephew when they were 12 and 13. Supposedly, this is what he said at the time (you can see the video of him admitting it here):

“I’m training these boys right,” Badazz said. “Ask any of my nephews, ask any of them, ask my son. Yeah, when they was 12, 13, they got head. Yeah, that’s how it’s supposed to be. Hell yeah, I got my f*cking son d*ck sucked.”

So according to Boosie, seeing Lil Nas X possibly dancing naked would damage the psyches of young black males, but hiring prostitutes for them when they are underaged would have the opposite effect.

Yeah. Okay.

Ultimately, this situation is not about Lil Nas X possibly dancing naked any more than its about supposedly protecting the strength of black males. It sounds to me like Boosie is attempting to project some toxic masculinity as sort of a panacea for black males. It's that sort of bullshit thinking which has gone so far to damage black men - particularly gay black men like myself - for as long as I can remember. This idea that to be "men," we have to take up some visage of a 'Stepford Mandingo' if you will - not heart, no soul, no emotions. Only a cheap idea of uber-masculinity which demands that we be  constantly hard in spirit and apparently in the bedroom. And God forbid anything challenges that image, particularly gay black men.  

Far be it from me to tell Boosie Badazz how to raise his children. That's not my right. But I will tell him to raise his children and only his children because no one needs his opinions on how to raise strong black men.


'Conservatives turning school boards into battle ground for culture wars' & other Mon midday news briefs

Conservatives are turning school boards into a battleground for culture wars -That noise you just heard are LGBTQ folks shouting "NO SH!T!" 

Teacher Accused of Saying Gay People 'Unwanted,' Girls 'Cry Rape' - She sounds like a nice person.

Tokyo Paralympic Games welcomes record number of LGBTQ athletes - Sweet! 

LGBTQ Afghans can't receive money raised for them through GoFundMe 'due to Taliban control' - The coverage of us getting out of Afghanistan as been jingoistically shitty as it was when we got in 20 years ago. But this is one saving grace.

Sunday, August 22, 2021

Video: A Nightmare on Elm Street Part 2 - The GAY moments

 
I know what you're thinking. This has absolutely no educational content whatsoever. It's crude eye-candy. So what? It's widely known that in the LGBTQ community of my generation that the 1985 movie A Nightmare on Elm Street 2: Freddy's Revenge was subversively gay on so many levels. But rather than go on about it again, let's just bring out the receipts. The video above is NSFW. 

And in the face of so much chaotic mess facing us these days - mess brought about by the deliberate greed, selfishness, and downright lack of human decency of some people - there's nothing wrong with taking less than four minutes to ponder a comical bit of trivia.

Thursday, August 19, 2021

The Family Research Council wants you to forget that the Taliban may persecute trans women

In spite of whether or not you agree with President Biden's decision to pull troops out of Afghanistan, I think there is unity in the thought that having the Taliban take over that region may not be a good thing for the folks there. In adherence of their religion, the Taliban could possibly be cracking down on the rights of various people, including women and the LGBTQ community.

But leave it to hate group the Family Research Council to make a bad situation worse:

Who is Allie Beth Stuckey, you may ask? One of those annoying conservative pundits/commentators/what-have-you who is seen as "feisty" because she trades decent debate and intelligent ideas with being rude and hateful. If you've seen one, you've seen them all -   tight dresses, big hair, big smiles, and annoyingly large high-heels packaged around a nasty attitude and ready play the victim - by accusing you of being sexist - if you called out any of the errors in their arguments.

She's irrelevant here except to call out FRC's hypocrisy. While the group points out how cis women and girls could face a major reduction of rights  and persecution in Afghanistan due to the Taliban taking over, it implies that whatever persecution transgender women would be victim of under Taliban rule doesn't matter.

 And transgender women - all LGBTQ people in fact - could face persecution under Taliban rule.

Seems to me there should be a general concern of any group of individuals who risk being persecuted instead of playing one group over the other. But then again, from their actions in America, FRC never really had a problem with anti-LGBTQ persecution in the first place.

 

'New TV series reboot of horror movie 'Child's Play' being called 'scary gay'' & other Thur midday news briefs

 


Antigay activist banned from Canada is absolutely losing it over how gay Netflix has become - 'Porno' Pete LaBarbera still around. Like a cockroach he never really goes away. 


Uganda president declines to sign queerphobic bill - Loophole! Although I don't know if it's good or bad for LGBTQ people.

Wednesday, August 18, 2021

Would gay people please stop trying to dictate how to be gay to other gay people?

HBHM blogmaster Alvin McEwen channeling Nina Simone realness.


So yesterday, I had to deal with bigoted folks who had a problem with Pete and Chasten Buttigieg becoming parents because they are gay. Today, I had to deal with LGBTQ folks who had a problem with Pete and Chasten Buttigieg being parents because they think the idea of gays getting married and raising children is too 'heteronormative.' I say I'm gonna need a guide book if this madness keeps up. 

Apparently to some in the community, LGBTQ folks wanting families are trying to copy heterosexual lives. Those complaining are the same type whining that LGBTQ people are becoming too "mainstream" and are losing our 'sense of danger' and adventure. What kind of nonsense is that? If you ask me, I think some members of our community have romanticized certain behaviors and actions which we had to undertake in the past because the homophobia in society made it so difficult for us to have decent relationships. 

 I am not a self-hating gay guy but it makes me bristle when I hear people whining about we are too "mainstream" or respectable, as if someone gave them the right to dictate how LGBTQ people are supposed to be. I always want to know who gave them the right to determine or mandate these things? Who are these folks to interject themselves into the individual lives of LGBTQ people and start tossing out rules of conduct. The fact of the matter is that some of us do want the life with the one partner, the white picket fence and maybe the 2.5 kids. And some of us don't. There is nothing wrong with either desire so what's with some folks wanting trying to make it all a competition? What's with all of the shaming?

I hated it when homophobes wanted to limit me based upon their ignorant definitions of who I am. I equally despise being told by members of my own community that my life and desires as a gay man  are artificial because they don't measure up to some legendary stature of homosexual 'coolness' which they conjured up in their minds. And I really despise it when someone throws academic or esoteric language at me; language which they obviously got from a confab of out-of-touch progressives who think they are going to change the world for the better while embracing the same tools of oppression used by anti-LGBTQ bigots.

This is what I know - I have never regarded being gay as daring or adventurous. I do not see myself as a 'sexual outlaw' or engaging in 'respectable politics.' My desires are not a representation of a self-hating homosexuality. I am a Southern gay black male. As such, my life has value in and out of the community.  My desire for perhaps a simple date and maybe a slow dance to a nice 50s tune isn't any indication of how I supposedly want to mimic heterosexuals. Nor is any other desire I may have for a family and children.  They come from me wanting to define my life by my own terms. I will not bow and scrape to anyone else's orthodoxy of the LGBTQ community no matter if it's one created by the religious right  or another being forced upon me by self-entitled LGBTQs with an inflated sense of their own ideas.

I have no time for folks with their noses so high up on the air that they can't even smell their breathe, no matter which side of the spectrum they come from.

And neither should anyone else in the community.


'Anti-vaxx, anti-LGBTQ Catholic cardinal now on ventilator with COVID-19' & other Wed midday news briefs

Viciously anti-LGBTQ Catholic cardinal now on ventilator with COVID-19 - A not necessarily all-together person. That's all I'm gonna say. 

Oregon School Board Passes Motion to Ban Pride Flags, BLM Signs - Come on folks. This is some straight-up nonsense. 

WNBA star Breanna Stewart and wife welcome first child - Wonderful! It's not just the Buttigiegs welcoming bundles of joy.

LGBTQ freedoms — all of our freedoms — depend on restoring voting rights - Amen!

Countries urged to offer refuge to LGBTQ Afghans - And QUICK!!

Tuesday, August 17, 2021

Far right conservatives go apoplectic over news that Pete and Chasten Buttigieg are going to become parents

Peter and Chasten Buttigieg are going to be parents and the far right simply cannot handle the news.


By now, unless you've been living in a cave with a huge rock as the door, you know that Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg and his husband, Chasten, are going to be parents.



The news was met with many expressions of joy and kind words for the lucky couple. But not in every area of the country and every area online.  On the far right site Free Republic (as in further to the right of Vlad Tepes, Elizabeth Bathory, Ivan the Terrible, and Delphine LaLaurie) conservatives were furious. To say that their comments were just downright ugly is an understatement:

Paedophiles gonna be paedophiles. 

excuse my while I puke... 

Can you imagine explaining to George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, George Patton and Davy Crockett that two butt diddling sickos can get married and have a kid... oh yeah... and be in the president’s cabinet. What a sick country!

 Is it coming out of one of their anuses? Rhetorical question, because these men are not "having" anything. They're BUYING a baby to satisfy their own needfulness, and forcing it to grow up in a highly disordered household.

There is a famous, impossible to prove story that George Washington was in despair over the dwindling chances of victory and many urged him to decide on terms of surrender, and that he went into a reverie and envisioned an impossibly modern future USA with tall buildings, and states and population centers stretching all the way to the Pacific Ocean. He went back to address his officers and told them he would not surrender and they must find ways to strike back. The story might have a sad new ending as he saw 2021 with Buttigieg and his “husband”, sex changes pushed onto children, CRT classes, BLM, bags of shoplifted goods carried out of stores without anyone stopping the criminals, carjackings, teen thugs pouncing on innocent people every day and America descending into socialism.

If you really cared about privacy, then why would you announce to the world on Twitter that you’re doing this, or that you’ll be announcing more later? What a convenient time for a member of the Biden administration to announce that they’re going to have a baby. Wag the dog. Diversion diversion. 

Like hell they are going to be parents. They are two homosexuals who are taking advantage of a morally bankrupt system to procure a child legally. My heart goes out to the poor, innocent baby, and millstone and a lake for the ones who paved the way for this to happen. 

Sick f’n turkeys. They should be turned over to the Taliban. (sic)

Poor kid. I wish “it” luck. 

Remember when a child being raised by two perverted homosexuals would be disqualified as parents for adoption? I miss those days.

There were a lot of comments I excluded, particularly those about the expected child, as well as illustrations (illustrations which are better left not even talked about in detail). But as disgusting as it is, isn't it nice? 

Like the last comment had fond reminiscences about, there was a time in which gay couples couldn't adopt children. Those who opposed us back then conjured up fake reasons to make their side look genuinely concerned about children,  but their reasons actually encompassed bigotry and hate. As time went on, their claims were exposed as false  and the only thing left for them is what you read above - a bunch of crude comments uttered by sad, pathetic individuals because their hatred won't allow them to comprehend past the prejudices which straightjacket their minds and prevent them from acknowledging a wonderful event.

If they want to miss out on this blessing, then who cares what they think. In the end, haters can only hate. That's their entire reason for existing. So let them hate. Flash lights on their hate. Let the world see them for what they are.  Exposing and acknowledging hate doesn't allow it to grow. It only reveals how small it is.

'Tori Cooper is first black trans women appointed to presidential HIV council' & other Tue midday news briefs

Tori Cooper

Fearless advocate Tori Cooper is first Black trans woman appointed to presidential HIV council - Not bad at all.

The Dire Plight of LGBTQ+ Afghan Refugees - Many may support our withdrawal from Afghanistan, but it present some SERIOUS problems.



Out Olympian brutally attacked on the street, sent to the hospital for surgery, in likely random attack - Good Lord! Trigger warning - some of the pics are from the aftermath of the violence. 

Monday, August 16, 2021

Marriage equality victory can be dangerous if the LGBTQ community forgets what we had to defeat for it

There was an article in Monday's Politico which claimed that the GOP is giving up on the fight against marriage equality, disappointing their religious right allies. I don't buy the premise for a minute, but we would all be blind to not notice that there has been somewhat of a cultural shift. Marriage equality is a reality whereas years before, many of us never saw it as a genuine possibility.

It's a good shift, but also one which contains the danger of future generations being jaded about the overall struggle for LGBTQ rights in general. Marriage equality is a wonderful victory, but overall, it is merely a pitstop. We still have not attained full equality as a community and we are saddled with the same enemies who made the above video. Just because they failed in one attempt to undermine our rights doesn't mean they won't stop trying. As you look at the above video and either reminisce about the lies we had to fight against or gape at what you're probably seeing for the first time, remember that  our struggle for equality isn't over yet. Not by a long shot. 

'Court rules Hobby Lobby discriminated against trans woman employee for nearly a decade' & other Mon midday news briefs

Court rules Hobby Lobby has discriminated against trans woman employee for nearly a decade - Score one for the good guys and girls.

Most LGBTQ adults in America have gotten or will get vaccinated against COVID-19 - Ninety-two percent in a recent survey have gotten or will get vaccinated. Okay folks, get hopping. 

Oregon School District Votes To Ban Clothing, Flags Supporting Pride And Black Lives Matter - This after conservatives funded with outside monies won seats on the school board. They always target school boards because no one seems to catch on. 

Remember Your First Queer Crush? - Lance Kerwin, Jackie Earle Haley, Ike Eisenmann, Stephen Geoffreys . . . 

James Hormel, first openly gay U.S. ambassador, dies at 88 - I remember how THAT situation regarding his appointment was a fireblast.

Sunday, August 15, 2021

Video: Richard Hunt - The Gay Man Behind the Muppets

 
Last week, I posted about a ridiculous claim by conservatives that the LGBTQ community was using the Muppets to "entice" children to become transgender. Right now, I want to focus on the fact that there is an actual historical link between the LGBTQ community and not only the Muppets but also Sesame Street

From the above video, courtesy of  LGBTQ historian  Matt Baume:

For over sixty years The Muppets have been entertaining kids and adults alike. You probably know their creator, Jim Henson, who brought everyone together, and you might be familiar with Frank Oz, Jim’s close collaborator. But there’s another Muppet performer you might NOT know — part of the core group who was there from almost the very beginning, and in the 1970s became one of the most famous gay men in the world… who nobody recognized.

Friday, August 13, 2021

'YouTube is providing a platform for transphobic lies, hate' & other Fri midday news

 


YouTube Offers Platform to Anti-Trans Hate, Says New Report - YouTube provides good educational videos about LGBTQ people. But then there is the other stuff like this.

YouTube fails to protect trans people from misgendering or deadnaming - More on this situation from the direct source. 

Virginia school board passes LGBTQ inclusivity policy that sparked protest, resignation - It got ugly, as it always does, but in the end this policy will benefit all of the children in the district.